Being single, prioritizing myself and being comfortable in aloneness was a dream but connecting and loving on someone, while receiving love, could also be a dream, so how do I do both?
Happy rising everyone. I really enjoyed this read I myself is in the aloneness stage of life focused on loving me correctly, focused on healing and being at peace with my past. I haven’t meet anyone so the dating thing is on a pause, but I am not lonely or filling my free time with pointless stuff. It’s a very calming place to be in.
Sooo thank you for the article voiceover, cuz these about to be implemented into my wind down routine 🙌🏾
Tash, thank you for validating and putting a face to this experience of aloneness. Understanding that it's not something replaced by a relationship, but something that ought to transition into the relationship with us. I love the analogy of love and aloneness being a rhythm. Finding that balance with ourselves and with our [future] partners is crucial in remaining full and present in the relationship. It's easy to get lost otherwise - this I know!
I love your vulnerability. Reading your lessons on aloneness and how to navigate the single years of your life is inspiring. I especially love the part where you said "love and aloneness can be a rhythm."
I recently got out of a 5 year relationship too, and I was surprised at how free I felt despite how much love I held for him. I don't think about it much anymore - I'm just enjoying my solitude and individual expansion now, as the Universe figures out the rest for me :)
Great self reflection Cousin Tash. ALONE time is very healthy and necessary!! I am fortunate to have been born into my MOTHER'S family. Her mom was one of 7 sisters + 1 brother and the family was ruled by the Iron Fisted but progressive hand of my great -grandmother Josephine Corinaldi-Mair ("Jess") who was a deeply religious woman who was educated and did not suffer fools gladly. She raised my Great Aunts and Grand mother to be educated, indepenedent women who did not have to be ruled by any man. IF marriage was in the wings, then fine but getting married was not a requirement. Now, that may not seem particularly remarkable in the context of the 21st Century, but when you consider that my Grandmother was born in about 1900 then you KNOW that Jess was born in the mid to late1800s. THIS was a most unusual set up for me to be born into. These women held "Family conferences" to discuss issues openly when required. Issues which even today may be considered taboo including Where do babies REALLY come from, No it's not appropriate that your Uncle should be trying to feel you up, and Don't marry a man who you feel sorry for. When I was born in 1963- My Auntie Laur, Aunt Daisy and Aunt Ivy were all still unmarried with NO children and were retired from successful careers in the Courts system, Post Office and private enterprise respectively. Did I mention these were GREAT AUNTS? I mean these were progressive women, yes? Hell Yes!! And my mom learned from them and she was a shrew as a result. The only reason she married my dad was because he was 11 years older than her and he could hold his age and experience over her any time she may have tried to overpower him. She was a force to be reconned with, but Daddy was able to "Manage her". LoL. One of the things my mom did EVERY year was to go on retreat. She recognized the need to go away for a week to a REMOTE location up in Irish Town in the Blue Mountain area between Gordon Town and Hardware Gap. It was FAR!! Away from demands of work, husband (not that dad was demanding but you know...), and US KIDS. Yeah, we were a handful. But we always recognized mom was a nicer person when she came back from retreat and we never begrudged her time away. And I grew up with a goal that WHEN I STARTED to make my own money I would also go on retreat to Irish Town. Sadly the retreat house is gone, destroyed in one of the hurricanes (probably Gilbert) but I do go on mini 1-2 day retreats regularly to focus on me, prayer, reflection and renewing my soul. I am SO glad that you have learned and are sharing your journey of the discovery of The Importance of Alone-ness in your blog. IT'S A NEEDED time away and we should NEVER feel guilty for spending Alone- time with ourselves. Blessings!!
Happy rising everyone. I really enjoyed this read I myself is in the aloneness stage of life focused on loving me correctly, focused on healing and being at peace with my past. I haven’t meet anyone so the dating thing is on a pause, but I am not lonely or filling my free time with pointless stuff. It’s a very calming place to be in.
Sooo thank you for the article voiceover, cuz these about to be implemented into my wind down routine 🙌🏾
Tash, thank you for validating and putting a face to this experience of aloneness. Understanding that it's not something replaced by a relationship, but something that ought to transition into the relationship with us. I love the analogy of love and aloneness being a rhythm. Finding that balance with ourselves and with our [future] partners is crucial in remaining full and present in the relationship. It's easy to get lost otherwise - this I know!
I love your vulnerability. Reading your lessons on aloneness and how to navigate the single years of your life is inspiring. I especially love the part where you said "love and aloneness can be a rhythm."
I recently got out of a 5 year relationship too, and I was surprised at how free I felt despite how much love I held for him. I don't think about it much anymore - I'm just enjoying my solitude and individual expansion now, as the Universe figures out the rest for me :)
Great self reflection Cousin Tash. ALONE time is very healthy and necessary!! I am fortunate to have been born into my MOTHER'S family. Her mom was one of 7 sisters + 1 brother and the family was ruled by the Iron Fisted but progressive hand of my great -grandmother Josephine Corinaldi-Mair ("Jess") who was a deeply religious woman who was educated and did not suffer fools gladly. She raised my Great Aunts and Grand mother to be educated, indepenedent women who did not have to be ruled by any man. IF marriage was in the wings, then fine but getting married was not a requirement. Now, that may not seem particularly remarkable in the context of the 21st Century, but when you consider that my Grandmother was born in about 1900 then you KNOW that Jess was born in the mid to late1800s. THIS was a most unusual set up for me to be born into. These women held "Family conferences" to discuss issues openly when required. Issues which even today may be considered taboo including Where do babies REALLY come from, No it's not appropriate that your Uncle should be trying to feel you up, and Don't marry a man who you feel sorry for. When I was born in 1963- My Auntie Laur, Aunt Daisy and Aunt Ivy were all still unmarried with NO children and were retired from successful careers in the Courts system, Post Office and private enterprise respectively. Did I mention these were GREAT AUNTS? I mean these were progressive women, yes? Hell Yes!! And my mom learned from them and she was a shrew as a result. The only reason she married my dad was because he was 11 years older than her and he could hold his age and experience over her any time she may have tried to overpower him. She was a force to be reconned with, but Daddy was able to "Manage her". LoL. One of the things my mom did EVERY year was to go on retreat. She recognized the need to go away for a week to a REMOTE location up in Irish Town in the Blue Mountain area between Gordon Town and Hardware Gap. It was FAR!! Away from demands of work, husband (not that dad was demanding but you know...), and US KIDS. Yeah, we were a handful. But we always recognized mom was a nicer person when she came back from retreat and we never begrudged her time away. And I grew up with a goal that WHEN I STARTED to make my own money I would also go on retreat to Irish Town. Sadly the retreat house is gone, destroyed in one of the hurricanes (probably Gilbert) but I do go on mini 1-2 day retreats regularly to focus on me, prayer, reflection and renewing my soul. I am SO glad that you have learned and are sharing your journey of the discovery of The Importance of Alone-ness in your blog. IT'S A NEEDED time away and we should NEVER feel guilty for spending Alone- time with ourselves. Blessings!!